witches brew...
it seems we have ourselves a dry spell here. (how'd you like that pun, huh huh?!)
Let me start by saying -- this blog -- i really don't hold back, so if you don't want to know 'all about me' and my issues, don't read on... b/c it can get personal.
Now...back to the matter.
Mr. Moo and I haven't had sex since our honeymoon.
Seriously, the last time we did it, we were in another country. How pathetic does that sound.
My interpretation of the situation is that he doesn't want to have sex now for fear that we may get pregnant before our planned TTC time (which is Jan 1, 2009).
I think the chances of us getting pregnant in the next month and a half, are slim. First of all, we aren't even sure we can have kids. You don't know until you try...and try -- we haven't.
Secondly, there isn't a HUGE window of time to get pregnant, if you are not trying to. Unless we are having sex everyday, I can't imagine us getting lucky enough to get pregnant on our first few trys.
And what the hell -- why can't he just 'pull-out' -- we've been using that method for about 2 years now -- the only times I went on b/c pills was to change my schedule (eg, making sure I didn't get AF (aunt flo) on my wedding day or honeymoon).
My diet is poor - from vegetarian to non-veg. Chances even more slim.
I'm beat, tired, and totally stressed out due to work, and just getting over all that is planning and executing a wedding & reception. My body - is not ready.
I don't think he understands what it takes to make a baby... but until he 'reads' something, he won't believe it anyway. To get him to read a book now - i'm not so sure he is interested. But that's okay, b/c I know he will read when it's time. (he's good like that).
Foreplay has been an issue lately -- let me just say, I had some dental work done recently, and b/c I have fibromyalgia, I've been extra sore lately. He keeps 'hinting' (which is odd for a man), that he really likes it when I go down on him, and that I should play with 'it' more often. I can't though, so I don't want to get his hopes up so I 'hint' to him and tell him by saying, ' unless you want me to chomp down on you when my jaw gets tired, i don't think it's a good idea'.
Well -- I guess it would also help if I shaved. It's been awhile. I think one of the joys of winter is wearing pants and not having your bare legs on display -- I am free from my frequent razor burn tribulation and it keeps me warm. What the hell, it IS almost winter.
Anyway -- I don't want to get into the habit that we only have sex when we want to make babies. That makes the lovin' so much less enjoyable.
As I write this, I'm not horny -- I just happen to be watching 'The Pickup Artist 2' on tv right now, and I got to watch random geeky guys, via video-night-vision, grope a sexologist in a pitch black room... it was weird -- but somehow - it made me think of Mr. Moo.
Posted by Mrs. MooMoo @ 11:50 PM
3 Comments:
As far as the "not having it" goes, I think that sometimes after a big antincipated event...sometimes there is a dry spell. is it that you are 1. not having it since your honeymood or is it that 2. you are having it less than usual? I agree, I think because the fact that you are not having it, you just don't want to start strictly for the sole purpose of recreating. get my drift? so, you guys have been married a month...is it normal for you to go 2-3 weeks not having it?
This is proof that women want sex as much as men.
To me, sex is always about being close to one another. Pregnancy is something you avoid if you don't want it. It can easily be done. He being afraid of getting you pregnant is NOT an excuse of not having sex. There are ways to avoid getting pregnant. I hate it when sex becomes a task.
If it bothers you and knowing you two (i.e. you doing the planning and him not planning in some ways), perhaps you should bring it up to him. Give him some reassurance that you won't get pregnant that easily?
One thing that bothers me a little is your mentality about TTC. I am not sure why you keep thinking that you might not be able to conceive?!? Unless you have reasons to believe (and I might not know it), it's a woman's nature to be able to conceive. It should be a natural process, not a shot-in-the-dark possibility. I just think that you should stay positive about it as I'm sure that will help with the process. Again, I'm not TTCing, so this might be a completely naive thing to say on my end.
Yeah, I don't have the most positive outlook on getting pregnant. I guess just b/c I have a poor diet & have some health issues. Also, I guess, b/c all my friends have had it pretty easy getting pregnant, my way of thinking is that just maybe, I'll be the one who has it hard... I really should stay positive, but I also don't want to get let down. It's tough in a way -- I meet with my OBGYN on Tuesday. hopefully she'll knock some sense into me... Oh and JUSTME -- it is normal for us to go 2 weeks without it... well, more normal since all the wedding planning and our stressful busy lives, but when we are not so busy, it's more often .LOL
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